Idols of the Heart: Understanding Our Inner Drives that Keep Us From Peace and Purpose
In modern society, the concept of idolatry might seem archaic, conjuring images of people worshiping statues and golden calves. However, the essence of idolatry is far more contemporary and personal than one might initially think. Idols of the heart refer to anything that occupies the place of God in our lives.
As a counselor, when I can identify “the thing” that a client is subconsciously pursuing, “the thing” they believe they need to make their life safe and secure, “the thing” they believe will help them feel worthy and worthwhile, I am able to discern the source of their greatest anxiety.
St Augustine wrote, “Our hearts are restless until we find our rest in Thee.” When we subconsciously place anything other than God as the source of our well-being, it will always lead us away from fulfillment and peace.
Identifying the Idols
The first step in addressing idols of the heart is identifying them. Unlike physical idols, these are often intangible and deeply ingrained in our thoughts, desires, and habits. They typically reside beneath the surface in the subconscious and are often uncovered in our quiet times with God, time with mentors, or in counseling. Common examples include:
Materialism and Wealth: The pursuit of money and possessions can become an all-consuming goal. When our self-worth and happiness are tied to our financial status, we place materialism on a pedestal, often sacrificing ethical values and relationships. Jesus addressed this idol of the heart often. He said very directly, “you cannot serve both God and money.”
Control and Power: The desire for control over every aspect of life can become an idol. This obsession can lead to anxiety, stress, and strained relationships as we attempt to manipulate situations and people to fit our expectations. This also leads us to be hard on ourselves as we try to plan and organize every possible scenario to avoid pain and discomfort.
People Pleasing and Approval: Seeking validation and acceptance from others can become a powerful idol. Trying to please others and keep everyone happy is flat-out exhausting. When we base our identity on how others perceive us, we lose sight of our intrinsic value and worth given to us by God.
Comfort Seeking: This idol leads people to avoid situations that can make them feel uncomfortable. They focus on safety and the avoidance of risk, a life where everything is predictable, and risk is mitigated. A comfortable and peaceful life is idolatrous when it becomes the source of esteem and the evidence of a well lived life. It also robs us of the joy of spontaneity and adventure.
Entertainment and Pleasure: The relentless pursuit of pleasure through entertainment, social media, or hobbies can distract us from deeper, more meaningful pursuits. When these activities become escapes from reality, they can hinder personal growth and keep us from true meaning and fulfillment.
How about you? As you look at this list, do you see any of the subconscious motivations in your life? Is there anything outside of God you look to for satisfaction, meaning and fulfillment? This is an important question because these idols cannot provide the deep, lasting joy and peace that come from our healthy relationship with God.
Overcoming Idols of the Heart
Overcoming these idols requires a deliberate and introspective approach. Here are some steps to help break free from their grip:
Self-Reflection and Awareness: Regularly take time to reflect on your priorities and motivations. Identify areas where you might be placing undue importance on things that do not truly matter.
Quiet time with God: Engage in practices such as prayer, meditation, scripture reading and journaling. These activities can help realign your focus and provide a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment.
Gratitude and Contentment: Cultivate a mindset of gratitude and contentment. Recognize the blessings in your life and appreciate what you have rather than constantly seeking more.
Community and Accountability: Surround yourself with a supportive community that shares your values. Having people who hold you accountable can help you stay on track and resist the pull of heart idols.
Service and Compassion: Engage in acts of service and compassion. Helping others can shift your focus from self-centered desires to more altruistic and fulfilling pursuits.
Counseling can often help us look beneath the surface to uncover unhealthy patterns, motivations, and drivers in your life. The staff at Renewing Life is always here to help. Call the office at 702-434-7290 to schedule an appointment.
Mark Whelchel, M.S., LMFT